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5 things young men need to know about domestic violence

Domestic violence affects everyone from the elderly to children. Men are no different. While domestic violence claims often come from women, men suffer abuse, too. Here are five things young men need to know about domestic violence.

1. Domestic violence isn't unusual

Relationships involving domestic violence aren't uncommon. Around one out of three women and one out of four men have suffered at the hands of their partners. That's just including physical violence. Domestic violence comes in many forms besides physical, making it even more prominent in relationships. Intimate partner violence accounts for 15 percent of all violent crimes in the state.

Domestic violence can result in death. In 2013, around two people died each week because of domestic violence. In 75 percent of cases, the perpetrators were male, but that means that in 25 percent of cases, women actually perpetrated the crimes. If a gun is in the home, the risk of a homicide increases by 500 percent. These statistics are why it's important to get out of a violent situation while you still can.

2. Sexual abuse happens in marriages

Being married doesn't give either partner a right to push his or her sexual desires on the other. No means no, regardless of whether or not you're married. Forcing unwanted acts counts as domestic abuse.

3. Spiritual abuse is emotional abuse

Spiritual abuse isn't referring to religion, although it could include it. If your spouse makes you give up your culture and values, morals or makes you give up things that are important to you, then your relationship is emotionally and spiritually abusive. Emotional abuse additionally includes having a partner who makes decisions for you, criticizes you or calls you names.

4. Financial abuse is a real problem in relationships

Another kind of abuse you might face is financial abuse. With this abuse, the spouse withholds resources, uses your name to accrue debt or steals from you. If your partner forces you to work, or not work, and makes you financially dependent on him or her, then your relationship is financially abusive. This is not the same as working together to manage a budget or using a shared account with equal access. In a financially abusive situation, you have no control over your finances or resources.

5. There is help for victims

Whether you suffer from physical or emotional abuse, there's help for you. Your attorney can help you file documents in court to seek an order of prevention to keep your abuser from seeing you. With the right support, you can get out of the situation and enjoy living a freer life without violence.