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How Victims of Sexual Assault End Up Sharing Custody with Their Abusers

How Victims of Sexual Assault End Up Sharing Custody with Their AbusersBeing the victim of a sexual assault is already a traumatizing experience. However, what if a child was produced from the assault? If the abuser tries to pursue custody of their child with the victim, should the abuser be awarded custody? As horrendous as these questions are, they are a reality for millions of women who have experienced a rape-related pregnancy. One of those women is Crysta Abelseth, a woman who was recently ordered to share custody of her child with her rapist.

In 2005, Abelseth met her abuser, John Barnes, at the City of Hammond when she was 16 years old. Barnes, who was 30 years old at the time, offered to take Abelseth home after a night out with friends. Instead of taking her home, Abelseth recalls that he brought her to his house and raped her. Shortly after the sexual assault, Abelseth discovered that she was pregnant. She gave birth to a healthy baby girl and kept away from Barnes until 2011. It was around that time that Barnes learned of the girl’s existence and pursued custody of the child

Despite the fact that Barnes was 30 years old and an accused sexual predator, he was awarded 50/50 custody by the Louisiana courts. In July of 2015, Abelseth pressed criminal charges against Barnes. She filed a police report with the Tangipahoa Parish Sheriff’s Office detailing the incidents of her rape. Unfortunately, the police have not yet taken any action against Barnes. Some point out this could be due to the fact that the Ponchatoula Police are clients of Barnes’s web company.

Women who have experienced pregnancies after sexual assault face significant trauma

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that nearly three million women in the United States experience rape-related pregnancies during their lifetime. Women who become pregnant after a sexual assault have several difficult decisions to make. The woman may have to make a difficult decision regarding carrying the baby to term or exercising different options.

If the woman decides to carry the baby to term, the mother and child may be exposed to serious psychological trauma. Some victims can experience anger, anxiety, fear, complacency and depression. In Abelseth’s case, she allowed friends and family to believe that the pregnancy was from a boyfriend. Another type of psychological trauma that women pregnant from sexual assault can experience is the possibility of being in close proximity again with their abuser. When the rapist attempts to fight for custody of their child, it can cause the victim to relive their traumatic experience all over again.

Can a rapist really get custody of a child?

Unfortunately, many states do not have laws that prevent rapists from pursuing custody of their children. Fighting for custody of their children is another way for rapists to exercise power over their victims. The women who were sexually assaulted are forced to remain in constant communication with their abuser. Even worse, both the victim and the child may be at risk of being harmed.

Congress passed federal legislation in 2015 that can help in terminating the parental rights of rapists, in the form of the Justice for Victims of Trafficking Act. Title IV of the Act in particular establishes legislation that assists mothers of children conceived through rape with terminating the parental rights of their rapists. Any state that has a law allowing women to seek termination of parental rights to their rapists were rewarded additional STOP formula grant funding through the Violence Against Women Act.

State legislation of termination of parental rights to rapists

Currently, there are 32 states that allow sexual assault victims to terminate the parental rights of their rapists. There are also 20 states that allow sexual assault victims to restrict the parental rights of their rapists. North Carolina is one of them.

North Carolina laws allow for the termination of parental rights in the case of rape and sexual assault. For the termination of parental rights to be successful, the following information must be presented:

  • Conviction of sexual assault. North Carolina laws require a conviction of sexual assault for their rapist’s parental rights to be terminated. If the child was a result of rape, but the abuser was not convicted of rape, the state cannot terminate or even restrict the abuser’s parental rights.
  • Burden of proof. To terminate or restrict a rapist’s parental rights, the victim must show clear and convincing evidence that the offender was convicted of sexual assault. The evidence must also show that the sexual assault resulted in the conception of the child.
  • The context of the statute refers to whether the law refers to termination, restriction of parental rights, or other limits in reference to parental rights. In North Carolina, the context is based on the criminal conviction of the rapist. For example, if the rapist is convicted of first-degree forcible rape, they will have no right to custody. They’ll also have no right to custody if convicted of second-degree forcible rape or statutory rape of a child by an adult.

At Epperson Law Group, PLLC, we empathize with the challenges and heartaches that you are going through. Our family law attorneys go above and beyond to advocate for you and your children. Let us put our decades of experience to work for you and help protect your family. Call our firm at 704-321-0031, or fill out our contact form. We represent families in Charlotte, Weddington, Concord, and Boone.